April 9, 2009
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explanation
So we wanted to move because.
~~Isolation
~~Lack of things for the kids to do
We chose to stay because;
~~We have 22.5 beautiful acres to live in the new spot we would have been able to *only* get 2.5 and the house would have been a piece of CRAP which would have meant several years of intense handy-man stuff in order to get it liveable.
~~We currently only have on car due to the fact that Rob is 3 miles from work–if we moved the closest house in our price range was 20 miles away. Thus we would have to take a second car payment.
~~We would have had to mortgage this for every penny in order to get the down–not wise in this economy. We would have had to finish our list of handy man projects here, as well as in the new house.
~~We would have taken a pay cut due to Rob loosing his night shift differential–not good considering the added car payment, and double house mortgage.
~~We would have left our ministry of Rob preaching at this wee church, something he did NOT want to give up at all.
~~We would have had to leave our ministry to a widow in the community that we don’t talk about, but means a lot to her.
~~The road that was causing some of the isolation has been fixed.
~~Staying here leaves us with considerable less debt.
~~In regards to where I want to live when I get old its here. Its the future for my kids I worried about.
~~Next year (this fall) Zeria and Sam will be eligible to play junior high sports–if we let them, so they have something to do with kids there age. So the worry about providing them with stuff to do is disappearing.
~~I hate packing, and I do all of it. Rob will load it in the car, but I had to do it all. I had to do all the painting, and the sanding, and ugh. And then we’d have to do it all over in the new house. Because what we could afford was a MAJOR fixer. MAJOR.
~~I’d rather spend time with my family then do fix-it projects for the next 3 years.
~~We are going to begin now putting money aside so we can afford a weekend trip to the sunshine when we get the gray skies are crap feeling.
I could go on, but you get the gist. The pros for staying won.
Also…in three years Rob’s boss will retire and Rob is slated for that job. In two years Rob will be number one in senority in the prison as the other two nurses will retire. Job security and senority are good.
Shelton he would have been on the bottom of the heap again.
In this economy that is not a good place to be.
Comments (3)
Sounds like you’ve made a wonderful decision… and that the new option helped you to realise how good things already were at your current home.
it does sound like a good decision.
Such good thinking on so many areas. I’m not sure you should worry all that much about the kids interacting with others. That is something that many “experts” say HAS to happen but looking back I’m not so sure that is true. It will happen and in it’s own time. What the kids get from you and Rob at this point and for more years to come is much more important than what they will get from pre-teens and teens and the kids will have friends and will develop relationships when the time is right. For now I’d keep them close and safe at least until they are 16 or so.