June 19, 2007
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epiphany
Samuel's love language is touch. His whole mood disinegrates if he isn't hugged, touched, or wrestled with. I discovered this YEARS ago. And have struggled to remember to give him what he needs.
One of the ways I do it is wrestle with him a lot. He LOVES it. He's always very gentle, and never hurts me. We fake punch, or what not and it totally changes his mood, and his ability to function.
With the kids.
He's a BULLY.
Yesterday I was fake punching with him, and said, "You know you are always so careful with me, I appreciate it that you don't hurt me."
He grinned and said. "That's cause your the mom."
He learned a very long time ago, that it was against the rules to hurt me, and he honors it.
He honors it extremely well. He hasn't broken it since before he was 2.
Soooo
what am I doing wrong that I can't teach him to leave his siblings alone?
I did something right in regards to me, now its time to figure out how to teach him to be gentle with others.
Thinking.
Comments (3)
I am glad he knows to be gentle with you... that's a great start!
Joël loves to wrestle too. Usually he is really good with his sisters (if not he has been banned from wrestling for awhile). Nicole on the other hand isn't always careful. I've let him tell her in "no uncertain terms" what is NOT acceptable. It is hard for him sometimes because he is so much stronger and heavier than they are. On his canoe trip he had fun wrestling with a guy who is a year older than him. And no moms were around- only men watching them. They had fun testing each other's strength. Sometimes I think boys need to test their strength on someone or something. Just rambling here... but I wonder if boys have good ways to test their strength then they will be easier on their siblings?
if you find out, let me know. I have the same problem with ollie
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