October 24, 2001
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I guess I'm a little sad tonight, and a little bit frustrated. I'm trying to decide whether I become a momma bear with her claws out...or let it roll. I'll ask dh tonight and see what he says.
I drag my kids out to cubbies each Wednesday night. Well my kids love to go I guess its me who drrags. Its a 15 minute drive one way--so for 1hour 30 minute meeting there is no point in going home. So I sit in the nursery and visit with a couple other moms. The visiting is good. But I would rather stay home in my cosey little hole. Am I becoming a total hermit?
But that's not why I'm sad tonight. Tonight Samuel wasn't "good" he had to be "redirected" a couple times--whatever that means. He's a 3.5 year old. And they expect him to sit for an hour and a half with 18 other 3 & 4 year olds. Its NOT in him
Anyhow so at the end of Cubbies--the "GOOD" kids got, candy. Zeria of course being one of them. And the "bad" kids did not. Samuel thought everybody got candy. And when he went to collect his stuff & realized he didn't have any he started crying. I didn't know it was a good, bad thing, so I went back inside to see what was up. Found out from a leader--who I don't particulary care for tons anyhow. And came back out. Samuel is still bawling. Not temper tantrum crying. Heart broken sobs--the kind that cut to the quick.
I have to tell him because 30 minutes ago he wasn't "good" he doesn't get any. 3 year olds do NOT understand 30 minutes ago. And I wanted to give him candy--but I did NOT have any, and the convenience store was closed, or I would have bought him a little something. Another leader was getting into the car beside me. She has a 3 year old--she understands, she has a candy in her pocket--do I want it. Its not the same kinda of candy--its smaller--but hey its candy--and thats all my 3 year old son cares about. I hesitated for a minute--cause I hate to contradict people in authority. But...he does NOT understand.
So I gave it to him. He stopped sobbing, but still had tears on his face and was sniffing 15 minutes later when we got home.
I know my kids are gonna have much worse heart breaks--but this one just frustrates me. Especially when it happened at a place I'm not particularly enjoying going to right now. So do I talk to the leader in charge? The leader who gave me the candy, said she would talk to her mom (the leader iin charge), but I'm wondering if maybe I should say something.
Or should I respect their leadership and keep my mouth shut.
And can I cry now too please?????
Comments (4)
My heart is breaking for Samuel. NO 3 year old is bad. They may have behavior that is undesirable, but they are NOT bad. That just burns me up. I think the teacher has unrealistic expectations for 3 year olds. I'm sorry I don't know what to tell you to do. My momma bears claws are out for him too.
That makes me soooo mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They should absolutely NOT do that to any of those children. Wow that is just terrible. They give stickers to the kids at GymTime when the class is over. One week Ryan was terrible. He threw a fit, cried, etc. I was so embarrassed. But he still got a sticker. They told him that he would have a better week the next week. I just cannot believe that they expect a 3 year old to 1) sit still for that long and 2) to remember why they aren't getting the candy at the end of the program. I would definitely say something to them. That is unacceptable.
I would speak to the leader. It could happen agin and you could have hands tied and beeter to voice your opinion then hert not know what it is for the next time around. That is just what I would do. Actualy I would have my DH talk to them cause he seems to get his way
I guess a 6/2 260 lb man would! LOL
Yes I would speak to the leader as well. No child at the age of 3.5 should be treated like that. And you tell me one that sits still for that long. I know my 2 girls were all ways on the go at that age.
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