July 21, 2001
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Good morning....I've been acting as a milk cow since 6 am in an effort to convince myself I was still sleeping. Kaylin decided it was time to get up...and I disagreed....so she latched on and I semi-slept until the other kids woke up. I hate it when I don't just get up! I feel so groggy.
I don't know if you want me to teach anybody to upholster...I'm learning...and their are literally some wrinkles in the project. But it looks way better then the old couch...so I guess I'll live with it.
I'm concientiously being anti-social today. I've been invited to a church sort of picnic at a persons house with whom I've been treated very poorly in the long ago past. I've forgiven them, but I'm so scared of the hurt, and wrongs being repeated. Rob told me staying away was the better choice. Sooo we got into this big long theological discussion as to whether forgiving equates forgetting. We decided a woman could forgive the man who raped her, but not forget the crime, or place herself anywhere near him again. What do you think? Not saying I was raped...this was just the analogy we came up with.
Father God, I'm in a dilema this morning...I stood up for you on another site...and now there are some fairly icky things being said...and I want to defend myself rather then you. Knowing that they will never see my point of view. Show me which is the right decision...and if I'm supposed to say something give me the right words.
Show me how to do WWJD!
I have been so spacey the last couple days, and ignoring my kids when at all possible. Help me to spend some time loving them today. And maybe even doing something fun with them. It would be really nice to have enough sun to go swimming this afternoon. TIA
Protect my children from their pasts, and allow them to blossom in spite of the garbage environment they've come from.
Tonia
Comments (2)
Wonderful discussion for you and your hubbie! I'm going thru that right now with some people, so I can really relate. ((hugs to you!))
We are to forgive as Christ forgave. 490 times a day if necessary. And He said "I will throw them [your sins] as far as the east is from the west." Which means we should, too!
HOWEVER... it doesn't mean we haven't grown from the experience. We are wiser. We have learned a lesson. And to put ourselves in a place where we know there is danger or hurt is unwise. To trust someone who has not shown remorse or a change of heart isn't smart. It's foolishness. Like your example of the rapist. To forgive a rapist and run back into his arms isn't a good idea.
ON THE OTHER HAND... if there is a good chance that these people might have mended their ways, then we need to get beyond the fear (which isn't of God, anyhow) and give them the opportunity to show their sincerity.
And by praying for help discerning the way to handle the situation, we allow God to guide us. Best wishes to you with this situation. I'll be praying!
Ahhh nothing more thelogical tonight please.
No I don't not think that forgiving means forgetting. Forgiving is giving up my right to God for vengance. Forgetting is well forgetting. I think we are to learn, but yes I think over time we need to forget- as God allows us, but not forget the lesson learned.
Praying for your sitution on the other board.
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